There is nothing like the feeling we get upon the initial point of contact with the opposite sex. (especially when there is a strong attraction.) We are filled with the excitement of meeting someone new therefore, we are anxious to know more about him/her. I know most won’t admit it, but our lustful thoughts begin to dangle around a bit too. We exchange phone numbers and begin talking on the phone for hours and hours. And if we’re not talking on the phone, we are texting one another. We spend so much time with one another to the point where we become inseparable. It’s like you just can’t get enough of this person. Well that lasts for about two to three weeks, then something happens. You start to notice things about the other person that you don’t like and find irritating. The jokes that once made you laugh are now annoying, what has happened here? hold on let me announce it with the bullhorn ”THE REPRESENTATIVE HAS LEFT THE BUILDING!!! Now it's time to REALLY get to know the person. This is the stage where many of us gets tripped up. It is at this point where two people go straight, or one goes left, and the other goes right. See, many of us have sat and imagined our ideal mate and what characteristics we would like for them to have. While we have put together this wonderful person in our minds, we forgot to factor in the issues and flaws that person might have as an individual. Once we get into a relationship, whatever we have inside of us, effects the relationship. This is where the HARD work comes in, and for many of us, when the going gets tough, we get to going. As soon as we come face to face with problems outside of our box of a perfect relationship, we don’t like to deal with it. The reality is, it is in the bad times that we learn who we are and we also learn who we are in a relationship with. It is in the bad times when we see just what the relationship is REALLY made of. This makes me think of an episode on ”The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air” when Tisha Campbell-Martin made a guest appearance as Will’s girlfriend Kathleen. In the episode their relationship was new and they could not get enough of one another. Then suddenly, an earthquake hit and the two got stuck in the basement. While being stuck with one another for a few hours, Will learned Kathleen wore fake hair, fake nails, and he learned that she really thought his ears were really big. Basically, during the earthquake the couple learned that they did not know each other as well as they thought. Allow me to make my point. The earthquake in that episode represents the bad times we go through in relationships. It took for Will and Kathleen to get stuck in a bad situation for them to learn one another. Unfortunately, in relationships the bitter and the sweet go hand in hand, and there really is
no way around it. Think of it like a plant; in order to grow it needs the sunshine, rain, and dirt. In terms of a relationship the sunshine obviously represents the good times. the water represents the bad times,, and the dirt of course represents the ugly times. Just like a plant needs all of the above to grow, the same applies to a relationship.